Emotional Sandwich Generation

Emotional Sandwich Generation

Here’s to anyone serving as their own Emotional Sandwich Generation —simultaneously healing our current selves, reparenting our own wounded inner child, AND creating a safe, loving space for our future older selves to thrive.   I stumbled upon the term “Sandwich Generation” in a podcast a few months ago. The podcast described “Sandwich Generation” as…

From Gardener To Garden

  You’ve done enough watering my friend. It’s time to be garden for once. — Spiritual Asylum —   To all our bold, and brilliant, and beautiful: Helpers Mentors Nurturers Advocates Caretakers Supporters Encouragers Cheerleaders And anyone else who has relentlessly and unabashedly spent years, decades, and lifetimes being the soil, the sunlight, and the rain to…

Filling holes

Filling In Holes You Didn’t Dig

  Freedom is the moment you finally stopped filling in holes carelessly dug by someone else’s shovel. As a former people-pleaser, chronic problem-fixer, current empath, and occasional codependent, I have so many seasons in my life that could be effectively labeled: Have Shovel, Will Travel. For far too long, I wore my ability to fill…

Forgiveness is a One-Person Job

Freedom is knowing that there’s no such thing as one-size-fits-all forgiveness — the very moment you realize forgiveness comes in a million different shapes, sizes, forms and distances.   There are two things about forgiveness that I know to be true. First, there is nothing simple about forgiveness. It’s complicated and layered, nuanced and complex in…

Turning the page

Picking Up The Bookmark And Turning The Page

Turning the page on pretty much anything  in life can be challenging under even the best of circumstances — but starting fresh (or simply starting over) gets especially difficult when it feels like external factors like seasons, and weather, and life relationships don’t want to cooperate.  Technically, it’s been Spring for weeks, but New England…

Choose Wisely Who You’ll Disappoint

Here’s a secret that took me way too long to learn: It’s okay to prioritize your needs over someone else’s expectations. You read that right.  Your needs. Someone else’s expectations. Can you even imagine?  At first blush, it feels so deeply selfish and inherently weak. So uncomfortable, so distasteful, so impolite —something I truly thought…

Christmas tree on a sandy beach

Building Traditions In The Sand

The biggest lesson I’m learning this holiday season — build your traditions in the sand. I had a recent conversation with someone close to me who said she feels that when it comes to the holidays, most of us are just doing what’s expected of us out of an unwavering sense of obligation. And that…

Being My Own People

Being My Own People

No matter who you are, where you may roam, or how big and beautiful your life becomes, chances are you know a killjoy. A stick in the mud. A wet blanket. A doomsdayer.  These people are the friends, families, or coworkers who have become so comfortable with their glass being half empty that they convince…